Fears can stop you in your tracks and fear of failure can prevent you from ever following God’s lead and living a fulfilled and purposeful life.
Today’s episode on FaithAnchored Speaks talks about how to overcome these fears and also gives a little behind the scenes story of FaithAnchored Ministries outreach relief program. God does NOT want us to live a life bound in fear.
Failure is something we all experience and it’s hard to face due to the pain and fear it can cause deep within us. Failure is defined by dictionary.com as the lack of success or the omission of an expected or required action.
DID YOU KNOW? Some people have fear of failure so badly that there is a medical term for it? Atychiphobia is the fear of failure.
Fear of failure could be linked to many different causes. For instance, having critical or unsupportive parents is one.
As a child, I often heard, from my father- I was a failure, a let down, and that I only caused more problems for him. He literally told me I had been nothing but a disappointment to him.
It’s important to understand– I wasn’t an out of control teen, I wasn’t out repeatedly breaking rules, and I didn’t dare talk back to him. I was in NO WAY perfect, but he was miserable and wanted everyone else to be also.
To be clear, there is never a good reason to speak to your children or anyone else in such a manner. We all have failures in our life- moments we are not proud of- mistakes we have made- but we are NOT defined by these moments.
Just as many children do, I wanted more than anything to make dad proud- to hear some form of approval for all I had endured. As a child and even in to my adult years– I strived over and over to “make my father proud of me.”
It was only about two years ago that I finally realized- it wasn’t me- it was him. He would never be proud of me- never acknowledge how hard I had worked or how far I have come despite all odds against me. He was miserable.
This formed a deep root of fear of failure and lack of self-worth within me. Something I still struggle with today.
It’s hard for me to get started on something new. A new idea– new career path– new relationships– basically, new anything. I get intense anxiety about being around new people or in a new environment. To the point, that I use to avoid it all together.
Things really began to change for me when I started soul searching and trying to find out WHY I am always fearful. As I began to dig and research, I found that it was likely due to the abuse and constant negative talk from my father. Which then developed into full blown negative self-talk.
Change starts within You!
So what do we do to overcome this?
First, realize this is not something that will just magically go away overnight. I have been working at breaking these chains for two years. Everyday gets better and closer to the ultimate goal of living a FEARLESS life.
4 things I found to help me overcome my fear of failure:
Pray. Anytime you are feeling fearful, stop and pray. Ask God to break the chains of fear over your life. Ask God to give you courage, strength, and clarity. Ask Him to remind you that you are His and He has NOT given us a spirit of fear, but one of power, love, and a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7
Find the benefits of past failures. Appreciate the growth that comes with failure.
Change the way you view the circumstance. When failure is possible, view it as a challenge.
Eliminate bad self-talk. Treat yourself kindly when you experience failure.
Failing at something is a stepping stone to success.
I have missed over 9000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games, 26 times I was trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life, and that is why I succeed.“
We need to learn to embrace the concept of doing it afraid. Often times, our biggest successes come from something we were afraid to do in the beginning. The key is to do it even if you are feeling fearful.
The Bible tells us that God has not given us a spirit of fear. It does NOT say we won’t feel fear. It is our choice on how to react, when the spirit’s of Satan creep into our inner thoughts, causing us to feel fearful; we must kick him out!
Stop the downward spiral of Satan’s lies and begin to declare God’s word over yourself and the situation.
2 Timothy 1:7 is a great weapon against fear.
There is truly nothing to fear, except for fear itself.
Take a moment to think of something you have felt compelled to do or even wanted to do but ultimately didn’t because of fear of failure or fear of any kind.
Have you always wanted to ride a roller coaster, but you’re afraid of heights? Maybe you want to sing karaoke, but are afraid to be in front of people. Is there somewhere you want to go, but you’re afraid to fly? Perhaps, it’s something most might think is simple, like visiting a local church for the first time, but you’re afraid of what people may think. Do you want to start a new business– new hobby– new relationship?
Do you have it? Good!
Write it down. Seriously, do it!
Now, on the same paper, write why you haven’t done it yet. The associated fear– confess to yourself and God the fear(s) that has prevented you from doing what you wrote.
Next, I want you to do some research in the Bible for yourself. This can easily be done on a Bible App. or at biblegateway.com. Write down one or more scriptures to declare over that fear.
I recommend memorizing 2 Timothy 1:7, so that you can easily access this scriptural weapon to declare when Satan attempts to attack you with any form of fear.
I challenge you today to complete the activity above (if you haven’t already) and be courageous, go do whatever it is you wrote down.
Don’t give up on anything and don’t let Satan use his lies to keep you bound in fear.
My prayer for you
Heavenly Father, Thank you for Your word. I pray that you use this blog article on fear of failure to touch each person that reads it. Give them understanding and clarity. Help them to remember your promises and to declare Your Word, when they begin to feel fearful. Open their hearts and minds as they research and complete the activity above. God, I pray that you would expose their fears to themselves and give them the scripture and strength to overcome each one. Your Word says we can do ALL things through You who gives us strength! In Jesus mighty name I pray. Amen
Good Morning Friends and Family! I wanted to take the time to share with you what has been going on “behind the scenes” in my life and the ministry. Since the covid-19 pandemic began, I have read many posts on Facebook about elderly, disabled, high-risk, homeless, truckers and more unable to get a meal or essentials due to circumstances out of their control.
This shook me to the core.
Every person has a story and likely can tell you about a time that they have been in need. I can honestly say, I have been on both sides of the fence. I have seen times of struggle and I have been in the position to not “want” for anything. I just simply can’t fathom someone in my community going hungry if I am able to give anything to help.
I began to brainstorm ways to help the community, yet still honor the law and social distancing. That is when God laid it on my heart to cook meals to feed a crowd and I created NWI Meal Relief-FaithAnchored.
Admittedly at first I thought to myself, “Lord, you know my health isn’t great and I do not have the strength and energy to do this- not without Your help.”
Many of you do not know but I have been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia which is a chronic wide spread pain disorder, that robs me of the ability to “get up and go” like I use to. Prior to being diagnosed I worked a full time job, cared for family, took care of myself and my children, and felt like the energizer bunny who could just go and go.
All of a sudden I began feeling weak, always exhausted, in so much pain that many days it’s hard to be mobile or even wear clothes due to the pain.
So, when God laid on my heart to cook meals for a crowd and to deliver them to those in need, my mind said there is no way I can do this. However, I truly felt God was telling me this was my way to help the community and spread God’s love.
With a lot of prayer and without any further hesitation, I went to Facebook, and posted in a local quarantine community support group that I would be preparing a hot meal and small blessing bags to help the elderly, disabled, high-risk, homeless, and anyone in the community in need. I went on to explain, to contact me privately if they, or someone they know, was in need of a hot meal and to include an address and how many people live in the home.
The first two times I made deliveries there was just a handful or two of families to deliver to across 4 local cities. In fact, the first time I prepared and delivered meals, I had extras; which I then took to local truck stops and passed out to the truckers. They are working long hours, not seeing their families, and deserve a nice homemade hot meal.
The following week it exploded!
It went from about 5-10 meals to deliver in a day, to a whopping 73 meals delivered in one day!
My fear of failure and letting down all these families kicked into high gear! I worried that I wouldn’t be able to keep up or that half way through my body would just “be done”. I also made it known to God that my own family is “barely making it” and I wasn’t sure how I could afford the supplies needed to feed so many in the community.
By the grace of God I have had the health and energy needed to continue to complete the mission that He has set before me. God reminded me of the story where Jesus fed 5000 with just two fish and five loaves of bread. When resources got low and it looked like I would have to stop serving, God provided exactly what I needed through others in the community.
In this time of uncertainty, I am so humbled and proud of my community, for coming together and donating what they can to help the less fortunate. Some have donated food, daily necessities- others have donated money, time, services, and more- all to help our fellow neighbors in need.
God is using this time to bring His people together! What the enemy meant for harm God will use for the good of His people.
Genesis 50:20 NKJV 20 But as for you, you meant evil against me; but God meant it for good, in order to bring it about as it is this day, to save many people alive.
Before, I took this bold step in faith to follow God’s lead, I spent most of my days on the couch or in bed, in pain that prevented me from doing much of anything. Getting up and taking a shower was exhausting enough for me and I considered that a “win” for the day.
Now, I can humbly say to all of you that with God’s help, I have successfully shopped, prepped, cooked, and delivered over 200 meals and approximately 50 blessing bags in two and a half weeks!
God is good!
I am exhausted, but God continues to remain faithful in renewing my strength, giving me the energy to push on, squashing my fear and anxiety, and providing me with the resources needed to continue to help those in our community.
What’s the point of me telling you all of this?
Do NOT let fear of failure stop you from following God’s lead!
If God sends you on a mission for Him- He will provide you with everything that is needed to complete what He has called you to do.
God has NOT given us the spirit of fear, but of love, power and a sound mind!
2 Timothy 1:7 NKJV 7 For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.
Prayer over fear
Heavenly Father, Thank you Lord for the message on fear of failure. Thank you for giving me the power and love to conqueror the fears the enemy tried to hold me in bondage with. Lord, thank you for renewing my strength, energy, and joy each morning. Thank you for being a promise keeper and providing all I need to serve you as I have been called to. Lord, I pray for blessings of each person who reads this message I pray you speak to them through Your Holy Spirit. God, continue to lead our paths and make them straight, open our hearts to Your word and direction. Show each of us how we can serve You in our community. Lord, I pray for safety protection and good health over every family in our nation in Jesus mighty name I pray. Amen