Men and women are both created with unique characteristics, with natural abilities, and astonishing differences to compliment one another throughout life. This is how God designed mankind and one of the many purposes we each have on this Earth– to become one with our spouse.
God’s design for love, sex, marriage, and family has always been that men and women are created equally and each play a very important role in the family unit. This concept has been under attack for a very long time and is something that I have struggled with in the past.
I grew up watching my mother struggle to make ends meet, to provide for her family, and having to deal with abuse, hurt, abandonment, and more. To top it all off I, myself didn’t have the easiest of childhoods, I was abused mentally, physically, and sexually by men– in most cases much older men.
These life experiences mixed with the raging ideology of feminism created in me a ‘men suck, men can’t be trusted, men are controlling and abusive, anything a man can do- I can do better, and the I don’t need a man’ attitude.
I suspect that I adapted many of these ideas by the things I was seeing and hearing in the world back then and unfortunately it is actually only getting worse in today’s society. Feminism started as the advocacy of women’s rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes, however it has become so much more than that.
Feminism has gone too far, it is over correcting to the point we have jumped off the cliff altogether and are now facing a full blown attack on the family unit and gender differences that make us each unique.
Men are NOT horrible, abusive, sex crazed maniacs; there are LOTS of valuable traits that come from naturally born men, just as naturally born women have.
Just like all areas of life there are always some ‘bad apples’ but this does not equate to men or women as a whole being bad.
Unfortunately this attack on men and the family unit has further grown past feminism and has become an attack on gender in general, further breaking down the importance and design for men, women, and the family as a whole.
Removing gender removes everything that makes men and women individually special. It also erases all the progress that we have made as women for equality.
I am no longer one who buys in to the ideology that men are bad and women are equal in all ways to men. This is just simply not true.
You cannot tell me a six foot, two hundred pound man of muscle has the same strength and abilities as a five foot two inch, one hundred and thirty pound woman has. This does not mean there aren’t things that men do that women can’t or vice versa but it does mean that we are all created with innate differences to successfully contribute in our own unique ways to society.
Regardless of what or who you put your faith in; science, God, or something else it all proves that these two molecular makeups are NOT the same.
I write this article in hopes we can make a step towards celebrating men and the importance of their role in the family. Men have been under attack for years for being who God designed them to be. The world is trying to project them as these arrogant, selfish, monsters and they are not.
Men are designed to be the protector, the provider, the head of the house, the lead of the family, and the rock for the family unit. Women are designed to be helpers, nurtures, child bearers, encouragers, and a support system for their husband and children.
When we remove these designed purposes and try to mesh them all together what we get is a mess of confused, unhappy, self-destructive ideas that will ultimately lead to destruction.
It leads to years of searching to try and discover who you are and what your purpose is. It leads to years of hurt and self sabotage. It leads to deep rooted trust issues, self-hatred, and feelings of worthlessness. These misconstrued ideas of how things ‘should be’ will leave us in a viscous cycle of trying to discover ourselves based on a set of lies.
Embrace who you are and who God designed you to be.
Denying truth about gender or who you are to embrace what you ‘feel’ or ‘think’ you should be is NOT embracing the real you. It is denying and rejecting the real you and embracing a fantasy, regardless of what society tells us.
Choosing to live in an alternate reality of truth where gender doesn’t exist, where men and women are equal in every way, or where the roles within the family unit does not exist– does not remove the truth that one is choosing to ignore.
I will leave you with these few absolute truths:
- There are only 2 genders. Male and Female
- Men and Women were created equal in the eyes of God.
- Men and Women are very different and this should be celebrated.
Let’s celebrate all the amazing men we know in our life, give our family a hug, and celebrate the differences between men and women being proud of what makes us each unique.