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Erasing Men and Attacking the Family Unit

Men and women are both created with unique characteristics, with natural abilities, and astonishing differences to compliment one another throughout life. This is how God designed mankind and one of the many purposes we each have on this Earth– to become one with our spouse.

God’s design for love, sex, marriage, and family has always been that men and women are created equally and each play a very important role in the family unit. This concept has been under attack for a very long time and is something that I have struggled with in the past.

I grew up watching my mother struggle to make ends meet, to provide for her family, and having to deal with abuse, hurt, abandonment, and more. To top it all off I, myself didn’t have the easiest of childhoods, I was abused mentally, physically, and sexually by men– in most cases much older men.

These life experiences mixed with the raging ideology of feminism created in me a ‘men suck, men can’t be trusted, men are controlling and abusive, anything a man can do- I can do better, and the I don’t need a man’ attitude.

I suspect that I adapted many of these ideas by the things I was seeing and hearing in the world back then and unfortunately it is actually only getting worse in today’s society. Feminism started as the advocacy of women’s rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes, however it has become so much more than that.

Feminism has gone too far, it is over correcting to the point we have jumped off the cliff altogether and are now facing a full blown attack on the family unit and gender differences that make us each unique.

Men are NOT horrible, abusive, sex crazed maniacs; there are LOTS of valuable traits that come from naturally born men, just as naturally born women have.

Just like all areas of life there are always some ‘bad apples’ but this does not equate to men or women as a whole being bad.

Unfortunately this attack on men and the family unit has further grown past feminism and has become an attack on gender in general, further breaking down the importance and design for men, women, and the family as a whole.

Removing gender removes everything that makes men and women individually special. It also erases all the progress that we have made as women for equality.

I am no longer one who buys in to the ideology that men are bad and women are equal in all ways to men. This is just simply not true.

You cannot tell me a six foot, two hundred pound man of muscle has the same strength and abilities as a five foot two inch, one hundred and thirty pound woman has. This does not mean there aren’t things that men do that women can’t or vice versa but it does mean that we are all created with innate differences to successfully contribute in our own unique ways to society.

Regardless of what or who you put your faith in; science, God, or something else it all proves that these two molecular makeups are NOT the same.

I write this article in hopes we can make a step towards celebrating men and the importance of their role in the family. Men have been under attack for years for being who God designed them to be. The world is trying to project them as these arrogant, selfish, monsters and they are not.

Men are designed to be the protector, the provider, the head of the house, the lead of the family, and the rock for the family unit. Women are designed to be helpers, nurtures, child bearers, encouragers, and a support system for their husband and children.

When we remove these designed purposes and try to mesh them all together what we get is a mess of confused, unhappy, self-destructive ideas that will ultimately lead to destruction.

It leads to years of searching to try and discover who you are and what your purpose is. It leads to years of hurt and self sabotage. It leads to deep rooted trust issues, self-hatred, and feelings of worthlessness. These misconstrued ideas of how things ‘should be’ will leave us in a viscous cycle of trying to discover ourselves based on a set of lies.

Embrace who you are and who God designed you to be.

Denying truth about gender or who you are to embrace what you ‘feel’ or ‘think’ you should be is NOT embracing the real you. It is denying and rejecting the real you and embracing a fantasy, regardless of what society tells us.

Choosing to live in an alternate reality of truth where gender doesn’t exist, where men and women are equal in every way, or where the roles within the family unit does not exist– does not remove the truth that one is choosing to ignore.

I will leave you with these few absolute truths:

  • There are only 2 genders. Male and Female
  • Men and Women were created equal in the eyes of God.
  • Men and Women are very different and this should be celebrated.

Let’s celebrate all the amazing men we know in our life, give our family a hug, and celebrate the differences between men and women being proud of what makes us each unique.

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A World Redefined

It is July of 2021 and it is becoming increasingly difficult to distinguish between lies and truth in the world today. Society has lost it’s moral compass and is throwing out age old truths in attempt to redefine and recreate what is seen as right and wrong; to form a society that fits their agenda and/or reach their ultimate goal.

Along with redefining words, history, events, and more– society is intentionally misleading our young children and creating a sense of victimhood and self worship from the time they are in kindergarten.

This is a VERY dangerous game to be playing..

The world tells people today that our feelings are what matter most and that an individual’s perception is truth.

There are many problems with this ideology, so many I could probably write a book on it, however, I want to focus on just a few of the major points.

  1. If everyone’s perception is truth, then there is no real absolute truth. This can NOT be possible as we already know there are absolute certain unchanging truths. For instance, two plus two will always be four– a square will always have four equal sides, just as a triangle has three– the sun rises in the East and sets in the West these are universal, absolute truths that most people will always agree on.

    However, there are many absolute truth’s that are being redefined and questioned by a particular group or groups of people.

    For instance, God’s Word is never changing and always relevant– God’s Word is the measuring tool for right and wrong and good verse evil–God is alive today and will return for His people and there is only ONE true God. However, society is doing all they can to label Christian’s as intolerant, hateful, bigots that are oppressors for stating truth from the Word of God.
  2. If perception is truth then every person is always right in their own eyes–this is a recipe for selfishness, pride, and self serving motives that results in utter disaster when applied as a universal truth. For example, what’s true to me does not mean it is true to you. Perception varies from person to person and situation to situation. This can cause some serious division quickly.

    For instance, you may hear someone say something or see someone do something and to you it appears to be one thing, but if one were to ask the individual what they meant or why they did something it will likely not be the reason you perceived.

    With the perception is truth ideology you can see the set-up for division as each person will believe their perception is THE TRUTH; leading to arguments, hurt, anger, and possibly even more damaging feelings or actions.

The Bible tells us to lean NOT on our own understanding, that our hearts are deceitful, and our knowledge is limited.

As society continues to press for this agenda, we see America’s history being erased, classic songs and movies being banned, words and beliefs being labeled as racism, bigotry, hate speech, intolerant, and so on.

Essentially what this ideology is doing is causing mass chaos and pinning friend against friend, child against parent, spouse against spouse, neighbor against neighbor, and in some cases one race against another.

We must take a stand against this attack on our families, attack on our history, attack on our children’s minds and the attack against God and His Word; the Bible.

This ideology is allowing society to redefine what America has stood by for centuries. Redefining what is good and what is evil, what is truth and what is oppressive, what is acceptable behavior and what is not; the list could go on.

The thing I want to drive home is that we need to be doing our part within our homes and community to stop the spread of this division causing ideology.

Perception is NOT truth!

Perception can effect how you feel and think about a situation, but it is not a defining reality– especially not one that can be applied as the universal truth or absolute truth.

It is important for us to have a solid foundational set of truth’s in which we measure each interaction against. The Bible gives us these foundational truth’s. Revealing to us what is good and evil, what is sin and righteousness, what true love looks like and how to navigate through life’s most difficult storms.

Here are a few words or concepts rather that are being redefined in today’s culture.

  • Love
  • Justice
  • Equality
  • Marriage
  • Gender/Sex
  • Truth
  • Good/Evil

I encourage you today to turn off the television and stop turning to social media or other media outlets to find the moral baseline of what is right and wrong and what the actual meaning or design for the above concepts are. Instead, open your Bible and begin to discover REAL TRUTH, ABSOLUTE TRUTH in God’s Word. See what the creator has to say about these things, after all He is the ultimate example and author of love, justice, and truth.

** If you do not have a Bible and need one contact us and we will be sure to get one out to you. If you are unsure where to start reading I suggest the book of Proverbs. **

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God’s Design for Sexuality- Adam and Eve

Genesis 2:18-25

18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

19 Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals.

But for Adam no suitable helper was found. 21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

23 The man said,

“This is now bone of my bones
    and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
    for she was taken out of man.”

24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

25 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.

The Bible makes it clear that our sexuality is built into our original design by God. God created man, woman, and all things and called it all ‘very good’! God invented sex, which is meant to be the glue that holds the relationship between man and woman together.

The Bible is clear that marriage and sex go hand in hand, two becoming one flesh; one cannot thrive and create a healthy relationship without the other. Man and woman, originally Adam and Eve, were created by God as a relationship unit.

God created male and female in His image. He used a rib from Adam to create Eve, neither were meant to be valued above the other. He created each of them with their own purpose that was complimentary to the other. Gender and opposite sexes were what produced the intimate concepts of marriage and family.

Adam and Eve were the first lovers and each were incomplete without the other.

Sex cannot do its work without the vital component of marriage as God intended it for. This is why when we are sexually active outside of God’s design of marriage between a man and a woman, we experience sexual brokenness resulting in a loss of sexual integrity.

Sex is not just about an action or about gender. It is a foundational part of who we are, what our original design was, and how we can relate to God and others intimately.

Sex is a gift from God intended to be experienced between a man and woman after marriage. The sexual union has a very specific intended design to help people express spiritual intimacy, emotional bonding, passionate excitement, and genuine nurturing.

Sex is meant to bond you and help you grow in intimacy, forming a life long ‘soul mate’ partner.

The Bible also spells out what God says about other aspects of marriage. (besides sex)

Genesis 2:24-25 explains we are to leave our other significant relationships and join together becoming one flesh. The process of marriage is designed to result in complete and total disclosure to one another, leaving us feeling ‘naked’ and ‘unashamed’.

Due to Adam and Eve’s disobedience to God in the Garden of Eden, they are the only two who ever experienced marriage in its original design as God intended. Their disobedience brought in an invasion of sin that complicated every area of life, including marriage and sex.

Society is filled with sexual immorality, temptation, sin, and misinformation on sex, marriage, and God. We need to be aware and set boundaries in our own thoughts and life that will help us to maintain our sexual integrity.

2 Corinthians 10:5

We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.

Sexual sin has devastating consequences to our emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical well-being; it can also have devastating effects on others involved.

Marriage alone cannot heal sexual brokenness. It is Christ alone who can redeem your sexuality and heal your brokenness. In Him you can have the redemption you need to have disciplined, mature, healthy boundaries and marital faithfulness.

If we commit our lives to God and live as a married couple under God’s guidelines of marriage and His direction, we can expect to experience that marriage and marital sex can be ‘very good’ as God intended it.