18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
19 Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals.
But for Adam no suitable helper was found. 21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
23 The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
for she was taken out of man.”
24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
25 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.
The Bible makes it clear that our sexuality is built into our original design by God. God created man, woman, and all things and called it all ‘very good’! God invented sex, which is meant to be the glue that holds the relationship between man and woman together.
The Bible is clear that marriage and sex go hand in hand, two becoming one flesh; one cannot thrive and create a healthy relationship without the other. Man and woman, originally Adam and Eve, were created by God as a relationship unit.
God created male and female in His image. He used a rib from Adam to create Eve, neither were meant to be valued above the other. He created each of them with their own purpose that was complimentary to the other. Gender and opposite sexes were what produced the intimate concepts of marriage and family.
Adam and Eve were the first lovers and each were incomplete without the other.
Sex cannot do its work without the vital component of marriage as God intended it for. This is why when we are sexually active outside of God’s design of marriage between a man and a woman, we experience sexual brokenness resulting in a loss of sexual integrity.
Sex is not just about an action or about gender. It is a foundational part of who we are, what our original design was, and how we can relate to God and others intimately.
Sex is a gift from God intended to be experienced between a man and woman after marriage. The sexual union has a very specific intended design to help people express spiritual intimacy, emotional bonding, passionate excitement, and genuine nurturing.
Sex is meant to bond you and help you grow in intimacy, forming a life long ‘soul mate’ partner.
The Bible also spells out what God says about other aspects of marriage. (besides sex)
Genesis 2:24-25 explains we are to leave our other significant relationships and join together becoming one flesh. The process of marriage is designed to result in complete and total disclosure to one another, leaving us feeling ‘naked’ and ‘unashamed’.
Due to Adam and Eve’s disobedience to God in the Garden of Eden, they are the only two who ever experienced marriage in its original design as God intended. Their disobedience brought in an invasion of sin that complicated every area of life, including marriage and sex.
Society is filled with sexual immorality, temptation, sin, and misinformation on sex, marriage, and God. We need to be aware and set boundaries in our own thoughts and life that will help us to maintain our sexual integrity.
We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
Sexual sin has devastating consequences to our emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical well-being; it can also have devastating effects on others involved.
Marriage alone cannot heal sexual brokenness. It is Christ alone who can redeem your sexuality and heal your brokenness. In Him you can have the redemption you need to have disciplined, mature, healthy boundaries and marital faithfulness.
If we commit our lives to God and live as a married couple under God’s guidelines of marriage and His direction, we can expect to experience that marriage and marital sex can be ‘very good’ as God intended it.